A year from now, here are five things from this week that I'd like to remember:

MONDAY 

I bundle F up into a navy blue sweater onesie with a giant yellow smiley face on it, Mulan socks that are too big for her tiny rabbit feet, and a white snowsuit. She’s wailing, already, and we haven’t yet left the house. 

After a leisurely fall season, which is, hands-down, my favorite part about living in St. Louis, it’s finally cold. Uncomfortably so. I remind myself that the discomforts in life refresh us in all the ways a new year only promises to, and zip my coat up to the throat. 

It’s 8:30 in the morning and I haven’t had coffee, but as soon as the icy wind smacks me in the face, I feel invigorated, even giddy. To me, the most beautiful part about nature is that she doesn’t coddle. She can’t wait for us to keep up; she has far greater things to do. She thrashes and stomps and lingers. She doesn’t stop to think or wait for a better time. She heals herself the best she can. She considers the larger picture. She goes on.

F’s protests have quieted, subdued by all there is to digest. She looks at the bare arms of maples, dogwoods, and elms; she stretching her own. Branches scrape against buildings and the sky. The wind whistles as it passes through our clothes and hair, searching. Birds rummage against the wind, finding their way towards food or home. We listen to them sing while they work or play. Song is something that has a place almost anywhere. I want more of it. 

When I turn the corner towards our little free library, I feel a bolt of panic. Sharp and quiet. Since the first of January, I’ve noticed it more and more: the way the years are running away from me. The way they look back at me and laugh, remembering that I once worried that things would never change. 

N rides a bicycle and takes showers. She strips off her coat and sweaters to be closer to Sister Winter. She’s learning how to manage her own temper; I’m learning, too. She’s not in any rush; she takes a long time. She is quiet, observant—but now and then, she steps outside of herself to dance and laugh maniacally. In these moments, she is so uninhibited that my heart splinters. 

In the fall, she’ll start at a new school, maybe, and F will, too. They will reach for each other; I will have more time for myself. I know that this is what I’ve looked forward to, but it doesn’t feel satisfying. Raising children is such a mournful affair—a rush of head and heart, a constant coming up for air. Other than affection, what I’ve felt most over the past few years is internal conflict and a desire for solitude. Now, for the first time since becoming a mother, I feel a little lonely. 

The robins sing. F waves at them, then becomes distracted by her own hand. I see the miracle of song and wave. I see the miracle of ten tiny fingers on two tiny hands. I see the old years and the new years chasing each other, faster now, and then a blur.

I see the entire world standing before me. She says the same thing she always says, the same thing I know she’ll always say: I hope you’re paying attention.

TUESDAY

“This practice of rewriting my personal color story is useful in a few ways. I am more intimately privy to the inner workings of my own mind, able to discern why an individual shade, or an entire spectrum of a single hue—affects me in the way it does. I am able to pair and detach certain colors with specific memories, and therefore, emotions. I also find myself largely immune to the effects of commercial color marketing. Rather than feeling agitated by the color red, for example, which is routinely found in conjunction with extreme feelings of stress and urgency (stop signs, red lights, sirens, and all combinations of warnings), I feel interested, almost eager. All three of these emotional states—agitation, interest, and eagerness—are based in excitement, but only agitation (which is the combination of excitement and anxiety), has a negative effect on my body and mind.”

—An excerpt from “Emotional Color,” my latest Being column for Issue #60 of Uppercase Magazine

WEDNESDAY

I had the joy of speaking to Andrea Scher on the School of Wonder podcast, where we discussed confidence, creativity, and courage. This episode is available for streaming here. 

THURSDAY

I am: re-reading A Separate Peace, enjoying this artwork—especially as N learns her letters, watching Reservation Dogs, and thinking about love. 

I can’t stop thinking about this cover artwork, created by Tolkien to accompany a series of letters he wrote for his children. 

F and I listen to Joni Mitchell during breakfast. 

FRIDAY

The world is not simple.
Anyone will tell you.
But have you ever washed a person’s hair
over a tin bucket,
gently twisting the rope of it
to wring the water out?
At the end of everything,
dancers just use air as their material.
A voice keeps singing even
without an instrument.
You make your fingers into a comb.

—Tin Bucket by Jenny George

xx,

M

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